Practical Mindset is founded by Jill Trevena, specialist occupational therapist. Practical Mindset aims to provide practical strategies and resources for positive and proactive mental wellbeing.
Practical Mindset supports children, young people and adults to develop healthy self belief and coping strategies; to identify and celebrate their unique traits, treating themselves and others with love, respect and kindness.
“What will everyone think? Do they like me? Did I do the right thing? What if I’ve offended them? Do they think I’m good enough? Are they talking about me to other people?”... are just some of the thoughts I identify with as a people pleaser.
People pleasing is not good for my mental health so over the past few years I’ve been working on changing this trait. Some of my findings:
I trust my own intuition more - if something feels wrong then it generally is.
I don’t need to be liked by everyone - I certainly don’t like everyone.
I accept who I am, therefore what others think of me matters less.
If I act from a place of truth and the other is offended, then that’s their stuff, not mine.
I am allowed to feel angry.
If I do my best, then that is good enough, and there’s nothing else I can do.
The people who care are the ones who really matter and who will always be there.
Lots of people will have an opinion on your mental health and what you should do.... but the only thing that matters is your opinion.
What do YOU need? I had a real mental battle with myself at the peak of my anxiety, as I felt that taking medication was “weak” and giving in to it.
It wasn’t. It was the best thing I could have done to help myself. I was in such a place that I couldn’t think straight and was finding it hard to function. Medication gave me the clarity and calm space to work on myself. And what a relief that was.
If you need medication for your mental wellbeing, there is no shame in taking it.
Do what is right for your mental health. Do what you need to do, to keep yourself safe, supported and as well as you can.
